June 17, 2012
Lynne Varner Honors Her Stepfather:
In a touching,
and often instructive,
Separately, my stepfather and mother were two people whose response to the twin
burdens of poverty and early parenting was a whirlwind life of partying and drinking, activities
that left little time or initiative for family.
But something changed when they met each other. They got sober, bought a house
in the suburbs and spent untold amounts of money and time on lawyers and courtrooms to
collect the remains of their broods. Alas, those wonderful changes came after I
was on my own, but my outsider's perspective gave a clear view of the positive power each
one, acting as the stepparent, had on my young siblings and step-siblings.
You'll want to read the whole thing.
Cross posted at
Jim Miller on Politics.
Posted by Jim Miller at June 17, 2012
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Thank God for stepdaughters. After my biological daughter's mother and I divorced, I never missed a weekend visit or child support payment. I dutifully attended school functions, sporting events, paid for braces on her teeth and summer vacations. When her mother remarried and moved 6 hours (by car) away, I sacrificed my own personal life and financial well being to travel to visit (monthly) and be a part of her life. I never missed a birthday or holiday and gave her $30K (a decade ago) for college.
Now that she is grown and on her own she never calls or visits, and seldom responds to my pleas to return calls. I've offered numerous times to repair or service her car, just so she would visit. She has lived the better part of the last 5 years in the Puget Sound region, yet has only visited two or three times during that time. She regularly visits her grandfather (who lives 25 miles away from me) for days at a time during holiday seasons, but never has time to stop by and see me. This Fathers Day she didn't call or even send me a card. I still love her dearly and always will, but it hurts.
My stepdaughter, conversely, never had a dad who cared. Her biological father never paid a dime of child support, and never visited or remembered her birthdays or at Christmas. She struggled while growing up, missing the wisdom, values and guiding hand a caring father provides his children. When her mother and I married 7 years ago, I accepted this young lady as my own. I was honored when she asked me to walk her down the aisle at her wedding and accepted her (now three year-old) son as my own grandchild. She visits, calls and always remembers birthdays and special occasions. A tear creased my cheek yesterday when I received her Father's Day card and modest gift, knowing she only last Monday was released from the hospital after a painful surgery. Yet she didn't forget. Yes, thank God for step daughters.
Am I blind? I do not see the spot to log on in order to post to the public blog anymore.
Any help would be appreciated.
Re 1 Very touching and what loving grace your stepdaughter has. Bless you both. Sadly, there will come a day (there always does) when your biological daughter will regret what she has carelessly thrown away. It's a very hard lesson to learn: to cherish. Someday she'll know she was still cherished despite her lack of loving grace.
Re 2 Who says liberals aren't clueless:
There hasn't been a Public Blog for months - since SP switched to or from whatever it was.
Nice and liberal of of you to actually pay attention to what really goes on the the REAL world - you know, the one that is not the utopia of your limited imagination.
Are you being sarcastic? I am confused. What did SP change from or to? I still thought it was sound politics since that is what I type into my address bar.
Anyways if the public blog is gone, why do we still have a section on the right column titled 'On the Public Blog'?
Sound Politics made some 'site changes' (I believe) sometime last fall. Since then there has been NO mechanism to post on the Public Blog. Some of us, clearly not all, noticed and commented on it RIGHT away. Some of us, clearly not me, took a bit longer.... Kind of like America: some took a little longer to recognize what a complete and utter disaster Obama would be while some of us knew in 2008.... some still haven't recognized it... or refuse to see it.... or worse, see it and refuse to acknowledge it.
Hmmm ... of what could that be a reflection....
So you are being rude to me because I did not comment on something at the appropriate time? Wow. A bit of a stretch to try an start an argument don't you think? :)
I have not been on the site that much for a few reasons:
1. pudge removes many of my comments despite being on topic and polite.
2. the post a comment feature is clunky and annoying to use.
3. topics have just not been of interest to me lately
4. other things in the real world taking up more time.
So I apologize for not being on top of the sites messed up changes that left us with advertised features that do not work. I would like to promise to be more prompt in the future, but know that it would be dishonest to make such a promise as I have no intention of trying to be more prompt in these regards.
Also, are you implying that I did not recognize that Obama would be a disaster? I do not think you will find very many things if any that I praised Obama for in 2007. The only thing that may be confusing you is I also properly recognized the same flaws in McCain (and now Romney). That sometimes leads people to get confused and think that I like Obama or think he is anything more than a complete disaster. He is not.
So in short... sorry for the tardiness, and you are right Obama is and always has been a bad president. Oh and thanks for confirming there is something wrong with the site and not me in regards to my question on how to post my own blog.
Hmmm ... not exactly what you considered 'rude'.
But again, that's typical of general liberalism: they never seem recognize it unless they can/do recognize it in others... particularly conservatives... kinda like they do with hypocrisy... bias...
I don't think there is something "wrong with the site". I think it was a conscious decision on the part of the SP powers that be... or they forgot when they did whatever they did to the site.
I miss it too... of course I have LOTS to say that never seems to be 'on topic'. Perhaps we, amongst others, here suffer from that same problem. And perhaps, talking about missing the Public Blog will this time be the impetus for someone to inform us of the why and, hopefully, the WHEN.
I'm not feeling particularly contentious today... of course the day's not over....
My reason for saying it is wrong is that it still has 'New - Public Blog Post your article'
When in fact it is not even New, and is in fact OBSOLETE and you can not post an article.
Sorry for calling you rude if that was not your intention in post 3 & 5. I generally take it as an insult when people call me a liberal and an obama supporter. I get the impression you would too.
9. generally take it as an insult when people call me a liberal and an obama supporter. I get the impression you would too.
I would 'assume' they didn't know me very well or that they haven't paid attention... then, I'd take the opportunity to give them my positions ... and, of course, why I'm RIGHT to hold them. ;)
re 6: The best time to give pudge-glob some snark is when he comments on a Jim Miller post. Miller doesn't erase your comment and you can reduce the pudge-glob to apoplexy.
I'm no mindreader, but I don't think Miller cares much for that blowhard.
11. I'd hate to be in a movie with Ragnar sitting anywhere near. He's beginning to sound like a cranky, old blatherskite.
No fear d-squared: a) I only rarely go to movies with my husband (too loud to enjoy ... the movies not my husband, nasty expensive popcorn) so there is NO CHANCE you and I will be movie mates and b) I have tried and yes I have failed to imagine a movie in which we would share an interest...
As Wednesday, I'm not feeling particularly contentious today... of course the day's not over...